After The Divorce – The Dating Game

As with everything else in life, after a divorce, at some point both parties must move on. So you’re single once again, now what? Have you decided to totally exorcise your ex from your life? Or do you want to remind yourself that there were good times? Eventually you may feel the desire to get back on the dating scene, or maybe succumb to not-so-subtle hints from friends and family.

Love Gone

Love Gone

Some dating experts feel that after a divorce, a blind date is not the best option. After all, you’ve just been through one of the more traumatic experiences life will throw at you, why start with an unknown quantity? Instead, check out the local club with a few friends. Make sure it’s age appropriate of course. No need to make yourself feel worse by sticking out like a sore thumb.

Try going for walks in the park, you never know who you might meet. You might find more than your favorite box of cereal in the supermarket aisle too. Of course, no one is suggesting that you go trolling the supermarket looking for dates, just be open to whatever opportunities may arise.

Don’t be surprised if you find the dating scene to be something of a shock. Things may have changed a little or a lot depending on how long you’ve been married. This may be a good time to become more involved. Local clubs or charities are a good option.

Do you have kids? Try becoming more involved in the PTA. Who knows, you may not only find the experience fulfilling, you may also meet a single dad or mom.

Moving on after a divorce can be difficult. Many divorcees have sought therapy, the confidence of a close friend or family member. If you feel you need to talk to someone, do it. Before you can even think about dating, you have to make sure you have adjusted mentally and emotionally to being single. It’s not a one step process, so go as slow as you need to.

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